No parent expects to lose their children, no matter how young or old they are at the time of death. This makes losing a child one of the most complicated and challenging forms of loss someone ever experiences. A range of emotions, from deep sadness to strong anger, guilt, anxiety and helplessness go through your brain and body because oftentimes grief is experienced on a physical level as well.
While these emotions are a natural experience after losing a child, it does not make the events less traumatic than they are. After all, they change the way the world is supposed to be. Children should be the ones with so much life left ahead of them, and these events can lead to questioning your beliefs.
The loss of a child triggers a variety of emotions, and some of them can be difficult to understand. Grief is not the same for two people, meaning we can’t even expect the father and the mother to cope with it the same way. However, the most common responses when faced with the loss of a child are:
To be completely honest, parents never do get over the loss of a child. But what you can learn is how to survive it and accept the way this event changes you. A therapist can help you understand those feelings of guilt, anger and sadness, and accept the fact that you can’t change how things happened.
Through therapy, you will learn to take small steps towards a better future and accept the fact that you need happiness in your life. Learning to enjoy life again won’t make you love your child less; quite the contrary. It will become a powerful tool that you can use to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel again.